Sexual Addiction Shame Cycle Sexual addiction produces a cycle of shame that can be difficult to break and often adds to the sex addicts reasons for returning to the sexual behaviors. I have witnessed many men that have worked on healing the underlying wounds only to be caught back up in the cycle of the…
Premarital Counseling Simple Tips
Simple Tips on Making a Marriage Last Be kind (not nice) and considerate. Most of the lessons our kindergarten teachers drill into us as children are also useful in our adult relationships. But niceness is one rule that can actually backfire in a romantic relationship. Some partners can (however wrongly) interpret niceness as weakness. Moreover,…
10 Marriage Preparation
Preparing for Marriage – 10 Tools for the Journey by William Urbine Marriage is a big issue in our culture today. There are widespread and varying reports of divorce statistics. The Barna Group, which studies religious groups, says that about three fourths of married Catholics stay married, and that about a fourth have been divorced….
Relationship Basics: The 7 C’s
Basic Relationship Counseling Tools Communication “To effectively communicate, we must realize that we are all different in the way we perceive the world and use this understanding as a guide to our communication with others.” ~Anthony Robbins Marriage and relationship problems often result from poor communication. You don’t have to become a chatterbox to effectively…
Address Marriage Problems In Healthy Ways
How To Address Marriage Problems Every marriage has conflict. Every relationship has conflict as well. John Gottman, one of the leaders in the field of marriage research, has discovered that the majority of marital conflicts are perpetual in nature. They’re continual and repeated. In fact, 69% of all marital problems fall into this category. Now…
Allies in Marital Conflict
Couples with conflicts often don’t seem to be offering peace and goodwill to each other. In other words, they are not allies in finding resolution. They seem to want war and cruelty. Instead of being allies they are opponents. It’s no wonder that they can’t resolve their conflicts with each other. Marital conflict resolution requires…
Ways in which you can learn how to be more assertive
Do you have trouble saying “No” when you really mean it? People who are assertive are generally self-confident, out going, and they know what they want out of life. They also go after what they want with energy and the attitude that they are going to get it. They are usually winners in many aspects…
The Cost Of Forgiveness
Forgiving Has Costs Most people have a really hard time letting go. Instead, they hold on to anger from past hurts, practice unforgiveness, and hold grudges. And they pay a high price for these actions. Unforgiveness has high costs. People who struggle to forgive and move on often suffer from: Depression Headaches Back/neck pain High…
Signs of Love Addiction
Love Addiction consists of three components: Romance, Relationship and Sexual Addiction. Signs and Characteristics of Love Addiction: Lack of nurturing and attention when young Feeling isolated, detached from parents and family Compartmentalization of relationships from other areas of life Outer facade of “having it all together” to hide internal disintegration Mistake intensity for intimacy (drama…
What Is Sexual Addiction?
Sex addicts use sex in the same way an alcoholic uses alcohol. Sex is used to numb and medicate feelings and escape from the painful aspects of their lives. The sexual experience becomes mood altering and in time becomes central to the sex addict’s life. It is important to understand that addiction is a “solution”…